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There may be an opening at the kids school in the cafeteria next year and I can pretty much be assured of getting it if I want it. But DH says no he wants me home with him--he has just started the 7 on 7 off days. It is alot of work-I filled in some a couple of years ago, and he says my foot--which I broke--would hurt all the time. He thinks we do fine on his income--which we do, but we could pay off alot of stuff vehiciles and house faster. I told him with the way he acts lately that I feel he don't really want me around and hes always mad and that if sometihing happened he would leave me with nothing, well that was 2 days ago and he has being extra nice and considerate --which he normally isn't. I am not sure what to do, I just keep staying home and getting fatter I am at 250 now and it makes me sick!
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If you think you can handle the job, physically (your foot) then I think it would be good for you ! It sounds like you are tired of staying home and would like to have some independence. There is nothing wrong with wanting to do something for your self. I say go for it!
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Oh, dear. I feel really badly for you. I think it would be really good for you, especially because the hours would probably be good too. I would think that you would have the same days off as dd and dsd?- and that way you could have the best of both worlds. At home with them when they are home, and at work when they are at school. I think about how Newlywed has taken on extra work just to pay down her debts. It sounds like you guys could do this too .. work to get financially ahead by paying things off faster. I wonder if you put it on paper how much you could make and how much faster things could get paid off, and then how much you could start extra savings (for a family vacation, or retirement, or something you would both enjoy). I think it would be a good thing, but it makes it hard if he's not in agreement.
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If your foot wouldn't hurt, go for it!
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It sounds like something you really want to do, and correct me if I'm wrong, aren't the hours only around 10:30-1:00 each day? It's not full time, right? Maybe I'm wrong, but I agree, they'd be great to fit into your girls' schedules, and you'd have school vacations and the summer to spend all that time with dh. Don't let his sweet little cover-up make you blow this opportunity. As far as your foot goes, if it starts to bother you, you could request that you sit for some of your shift, take money, or serve food from a sitting position, perhaps?? Lay it out on paper and maybe have a goal in mind (paying off something AND having a night alone with dh somewhere, who knows) but see how it works out with dh involved somehow.....
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If I were you, I'd do it! You'll be mad at him and wish you would've taken the job.
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just on the surface of this post alone, I'd encourage you to consider taking the job. From other posts I've read regarding you and your hubby,, I'd DEFINITELY encourage you to put your foot down and take the job *so to speak* good luck with whatever you decide/do
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Take it and squirrel away at least 10% of what you make for that rainy day when you get sick of dealing with your DH's inconsiderate attitude towards your happiness.
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DO IT!!! From what you have said about him in the past i think he doesn't want you to do it because you might get more independant and leave him. I would go for it, life is too uncertain to rely on a man to support you.
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Hey, aren't you older and smarter?? Do it. He's trying to control you once again. Do what makes YOU happy - you aren't hurting anybody and this is actually a way to enhance yours and their lives. I'm sure he can find something non-destructive to do on his own without you - he's a big boy and can entertain himself.