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I have a friend who is really into health and fitness, she is about 5'2" and maybe 110. She buys only organic natural foods, she is a vegetarian, has a part time job teaching Pilates - she would like to do it full time but it won't pay the bills. She runs everyday, enters marathons, buys non toxic chemicals to clean with... you get the picture - the ultimate picture of total health and fitness.
Anytime she sees someone eat or do something unhealthy she lectures on and on about the damage they are doing to their body. She recently started on me because I am overweight, I made the comment that losing the weight has become less important to me - I am comfortable in my own skin. She started in on how its going to affect my health... blah blah blah.....all the while she is puffing on a cigarette
When she was done I told her she wasn't allowed to preach about health and fitness anymore until she quit smoking. I could tell she got really angry - our mutual friends said that was the first time they ever saw her jump off her soapbox without a debate. A couple of them said it was really rude for me to say that......I got tired of her harping on me about my weight.... was I out of line?
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No you were not out of line. First off a true friend wouldn't treat you like this. She should be supportive of her friends, not put them down. People like this piss me off, judging others but can't take it when someone judges her. Miss-healthnut is harming herself and those around her with her smoke. Who am I harming just because I'm alittle overweight--no one but myself?
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I think its good you said something! She is feeling hte same way she makes you feel
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I agree. She has no right to preach to you while she's puffing on a cigarette. I don't think you were out of line.
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Heck, no, you were not out of line! I applaud you! When I saw the title, I thought you were overweight AND smoking and she was harping on you!
I have to admit, you made me laugh a bit - sort of like a punchline! For a healthnut, she isn't that great if she is a smoker. JMO
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Food for thought How much weight do you think she would gain if she did quit smoking? Dh put on about 15-20 pounds, but I don't care--I'm glad he quit.
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you were right to say something to her! my dear mother always has something to say about my weight. i finally told her that i didn't need someone in my life who made me feel bad all the time. she either had to accept me the way that i am or have no kind of communication with me or the kids. needless to say, she hasn't called, come over, etc in 8 months. that's ok. we need people around us who like us the way we are. if they don't, i say screw them!!!
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What do they say.."What's good for the goose is good for the gander..."
If she feels it's necessary to harp on you about your weight...you have EVERY right to harp on her about smoking!!!
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I agree if she feels its okay to preach to others then she has be willing to listen when they dish it back.
People who live in a glass house shouldnt throw stones.
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She started in on how its going to affect my health... blah blah blah.....all the while she is puffing on a cigarette
I would swear if I didn't know better I would think you were talking about my sister. She even smoked while she was pregnant with her twin girls and kept it from my until after they were born because she knows I would have been mad at her because of it. I mean you want to put the nails in your coffin nothing I could do about it but to do it to innocent unborn children there is no excuse for that.
I do not think you are out of line at all. I have told my sister the same thing. Some how she only sees the things other people do not what she does for some reason. You have a right to speak up for yourself if someone feels they want to put you down. I would not worry about this to much maybe this is what she has needed all along and perhaps she will come to see the light or not