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I am miserable here. I want so bad to help out in his class...I've offered and offered to do ANYTHING. She turns me down every single time. My heart hurts that his kindergarten year is turning out like this. I am SO disappointed in his teacher and just the entire thing.
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Maybe I've missed other posts where you've talked about his class, but is there anything else going on that is making his year 'disappointing? Or is it just that this particular teacher doesn't need or isn't as accepting of help in the classroom as other teachers?
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Oh, I didn't know you lived by me and that your kids went to the same school as my dd.
My dd's school is just like this. The teachers rarely, if ever, ask for parents to help out in the classroom. On the one or two occasions per year that a teacher MIGHT need a parent, they get someone from the PTA country club set or they use a parent that they already know. I'd love to volunteer in my dd's class or at the school, but apparently that's not going to happen. In fact, my volunteer library job from last year was eliminated, courtesy of the snobby PTA. I've pretty much given up the hope of helping out at my dd's school.
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Originally Posted by Oregano
Maybe I've missed other posts where you've talked about his class, but is there anything else going on that is making his year 'disappointing? Or is it just that this particular teacher doesn't need or isn't as accepting of help in the classroom as other teachers?
It started of with his teacher sending home a generic note about how "appalling" our children were on the second week of school. When confronted, she claims to have copied it from another teacher..and on her suggestion sent it out..to control any FUTURE problem children! (and on a side note, Riley has NEVER been in trouble in her class..he comes home with an E for excellent most days and an occasional W for getting a single warning on the other days...there was NO need for this note.) Add that to total disorganization...notes for Friday sent home the next Tuesday, etc. And then, Riley forgot his library book (for the first time) Monday. I ran it up to the school immediately..and before library time..and was assured it was no problem. He would still be able to check out a new book. Well, she told him because he couldn't take care of his previous book and bring it back she wasn't letting him bring this week's home. He was devestated...and even though I have emailed her AND sent in a note..he still has not brought it home AND I have gotten no contact back from her. Riley could parrot the words, "I have to do and be like a first grader" after two weeks of school..because she tells them this so much..but they are JUST beginning their KINDERGARTEN year!!!! I just don't get it. Why move to the kindergarten age if you want to teach first grade? And why not accept help when you are so disorganized and behind in everything? There is SO much a helper can HELP with!!!
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Are you allowed to eat lunch with your child? Parents are allowed to do this at my dd's school. This gives me some face time up there and allows me to occassionally chat with the teacher for a few minutes.
It's very frustrating when you have a teacher that ignores your notes. Dd's current teacher is great about communicating with the parents, but last year's teacher was another story. She rarely responded to notes. In fact, my dd would give her teacher a note, the teacher would read it, then throw it in the trash can WHILE MY DD WAS STANDING THERE!!!! She was just awful.
I must have missed your post about the teacher's note regarding her "appalling" class. Is she a new teacher? She doesn't sound like the brightest lightbulb in the box. I can understand you being upset at receiving that note; I would have been "appalled" myself.
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This is her EIGHTEENTH year of teaching!!
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When my ds was in kindergarten, his teacher was the same way. She would even tell me they were cancelling certain events for the day, then my ds would cry wanting to know why I was not there. I always assumed it was because I was a sahm, so I always had to bring my other ds, who was a baby at the time. If I were you, I would try to remedy this before more time goes by. I could kick myself for letting the whole year go by letting her do me this way. My ds is now in 4th grade, and I've never had any other teachers do me this way. I wish you the best of luck and hope you get it all worked out.
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I was going to suggest going to lunch, too. It is a good way to be seen, get a handle on things going on, and get to know the teacher.
Some teachers just don't want help in the classroom.
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That's horrible! Poor lil guy! Maybe try the lunch idea & see if it helps. I don't like her "teaching" style at all. She sounds so mean!
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My sons kindergarten teacher told us at orientation that she would bring in volunteer helpers in October as to her Sept is a time to get the know the kids herself. Maybe she will ease up??