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MY son is 7 years old . and still wears goodnights all day long. been seeing doctor since he was 4. he is on behavral meds. and on maralax but at times he refuses them . now he is going in his pants at school and knows it. the teacher asked me for ideas i dont know what to do any ideas let me know even at home he does it to
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I feel for you and for your son. Could the meds be making this happen? Is an adjustment or change needed? Did you, your dh or a sibling of yours wet at that age? The daytime wetting is a new one, so I would definitely bring in your pediatrician and therapist. Could there be an anxiety issue that needs to be addressed? I'm just learning about the issues that anxiety causes. I'm not a doctor, but my first feeling, in reading your post, is that the meds are causing a loss of control and need an immediate adjustment or change. Will he let you have him wear overnights until this passes? He will want to know this is not his fault; you're just trying to help him through while you find the right solution. Is there a reason he refuses his meds? Could they make him feel yucky?
With some kids, they don't recognize the signs that they have to go - my son still has to be reminded (he's 6) when I see him dancing. Then he says he'll hold it so he can play. That's why I'm wondering about the med adjustment - it may be making the sensation more numb. I hope you get a good answer soon. Poor little guy.
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I have a friend who has a daughter who is 9 and she has that problem. Her's is believed to be an anxity problem. With so much going on these days with kids at school, extra activities, families ect. a lot of them feel their lives are out of controll. Throw SN in and what a mixture! This little girl has some horiffic things happen to her when she was younger. Her life right now is out of control (in HER eyes) The only thing she is garenteed to be able to control is her blatter. I don't think she is doing the consiously. She is VERY embarrassed when it happens. Her mom bought her a special watch that vibrates every 2 hours to remind her to use the bathroom.
With Kids it's tricky. I would get your DR. involved and possible have your child see a counsler it can't hurt. With kids something simple like not getting the leggo's ever at playtime could cause anxitey, it's all in how a child looks a things. I also could be another kid bullying them at school. By no means am I trying to DX your child, or tell you the reason why this is happening to your child. I just wanted you to know how big of a rang anxiety can be and play. We adults may think it's nonsense but to our children it's seriouse buisness. I know my oldest son who has no SN dwells on all the little things. Boy it has been hard to teach him that the little things in life aren't worth dwelling on but he is finaly getting it as he gets older. Good luck!